I do. It’s always hard for me to hear that they’re ever so slightly embarrassed to read about their attitude to love. Then again, they’re usually also relieved to hear that somebody finally understands their complexity. Here is a summary of what it means to be someone who sees love as a Gripping Drama: At first sight: I can be very emotionally engaging; I get deeply involved and I focus intensely on my love relationship and my lover. As a lover I feel: Mainly I have romantic and sexual tension; with sensitivity, intensity and volatility. I also experience some dark emotions. My attitude to love is a gripping drama: I desperately want love in my life. When I have it, I find it hard to believe that I do. If I start to believe it, my next thought is that it will be temporary. That puts me through terrible emotional…
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In all likelihood, you haven’t naturally and spontaneously discovered your attitude to love. It’s pretty common to have an attitude but not be consciously aware of it. You might need something to draw your attention to it: You could suddenly realize that your lover is wearing you out with his/her doubts and fears that your love is fading. Your boyfriend/girlfriend may feel deeply loved when you really get his/her sarcastic sense of humor. These are clues about whether or not you and your partner are marching to a different drummer or to the same one when it comes to love. But this realization doesn’t provide you with enough insight to boost your love-life in a big way. Having your attitude to love defined: Will help you understand what love is for you. Love will become more than a mysterious feeling that can confuse you and trip you up. You will…
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Well, it’s easy enough to know what love isn’t: Have you ever been on a date with somebody who is just head over heels in love with you? And your only thought is ‘Meh.’ Were you ever in a once happy love relationship and somehow or other you just lost that loving feeling? Then you found out what it feels like when you cross the invisible line in the sand that means you’re done. You feel a cold resistance, or an active refusal to be receptive to a loving connection. You just have a barrier. More than anything you feel as if you just want to turn away and you actually have a sense of relief when you do. So, what is love? Love is an emotional bond or closeness; it can be nice, warm and steady or powerful, magnetic and electrifying. It feels forever in the world like a…
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It would be convenient, practical and efficient. Well, you’re simply not attracted to him/her and that’s that. Have you ever noticed that you have specific feelings to back you up on this? Probably, that particular guy/girl holds no mystery or fascination for you. If any questions about him/her leap to mind, you likely don’t care that much about the answer. So, you’re simply uninspired, flat and not feeling any chemistry: ‘I’m just not feeling it.’ If you have to spend time with this person who is crazy about you, you may feel the need to keep your guard up. You suspect that this individual just might try to invade your personal space if he/she could. This doesn’t mean anything harmful would ensue. It just means you know all too well that he/she wants any way in and you dislike that fact: ‘I need my boundaries in place with him/her.’ There’s…
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I’ve heard that you can make a wish and it just might come true. Well, I’ve spent a long time preparing this wish. As I put it out there in the universe, I know it will take its place along with all the other wishes. That’s OK. All I ask for is its place in the sun where it can live or die on its own merit. I wish you love. Now, you need to bear in mind that this is no simple wish. For you to have love, you need to be able to recognize it, appreciate it and hold onto it. You have to let go of your view that you can make-believe about love. That’s because you need your heart and mind to be clear. Ultimately, you have to hone your senses sufficiently that you can maintain something of a hub of confidence when it comes to…
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